Beginning of May Reflections

I think I've learned a lot this month, but I still have a ways to go. I've been out at night two additional times since my last blog. I'm having a lot of fun meeting new people. I'm learning to accept people in ways that I haven't before-- and people I wouldn't have gotten to know in earlier years are getting to know me.

I still need to work on getting more dates. I think women like me, but I am not escalating my interactions. I need to state my interest, get information, and ask women about their relationship situations more often.

A lot of different things are flowing through my mind right now.
1.) Although my approach anxiety is diminished, last night I still felt a fear of talking to women I liked. Instead, I stuck with strangers I was comfortable with instead.
2.) I am hung up that I have to get women to say something deserving before I can SOA or SOI. When I SOA, it often sounds canned. I haven't SOI'ed in a long time. I have to remember that I can show my appreciation (and my interest) in more ways than one. Although ensuring there is "give and take" in the interaction is a good thing to do, I also may not want to wait for the "perfect" opportunity to SOA or SOI. I think it would be worth it one night just to go out and SOI everyone I see as soon as I can-- and see what happens.
3.) Several times I've had great interactions going, but then the women suddenly leave. After the fact, it often occurs to me that they did this probably because they have boyfriends. (One doctor I know for a fact was married, because my wing found out). I have to remember to always get information.
4.) Often I'm afraid to ask women their relationship situations.
5.) I need to get contact information. For me, my problem with getting contact information is a lot like my problem with SOI's: I wait for the perfect moment, but it never happens. I need to just get out and do it. When I get contact information, I can expect one of three things: (1) she will not call me back; (2) she will like me as a friend; (3) she will want me as a lover. Two out of those three options are positive ones. It's win/win.

I know what it's like to approach and stay in the interaction-- escalating is my new hurdle.

My goal this month is to escalate. More details to come.